Awake!, September 8, 1990

Awake! — September 8, 1990

Source: jw.org

Contents

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Today’s Youth—A Global Portrait

Today’s Youth—The Challenges They Face

Today’s Youth—Meeting the Challenges of the 1990’s

Reader Response to the Book “Young People Ask”

Rock Badgers—Lovable and Instinctively Wise

From Hitler’s Army to a Ministry in Spain

Which Language Is Spoken Most?

Suicides—A Resurrection?

Part 3—Is ‘Government by the Best’ Really the Best?

Watching the World

From Our Readers

Ruling Increases Rights of Patients

“Look! I Am Making All Things New”

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“NEARLY one fifth of the earth’s residents are young people between the ages of 15 and 24.” So reported the UN Chronicle. It was estimated that at the beginning of this new decade, the world’s youth population reached the one thousand million point! Today’s youth are conspicuous—a powerful force to be reckoned with.

Psychology Today reported on a survey of 6,000 adolescents in ten different lands. It was found that in spite of huge disparities in economic status and culture, youths display attitudes and values that “are remarkably uniform.” From such surveys a global portrait of today’s youth has emerged, and what it reveals may very well surprise you.

Today’s Youth—A Global Portrait

POPULAR stereotypes portray teenagers as drug-crazed rebels, empty-headed, self-centered and lazy, who have little on their minds but clothing, TV, and sex. For the majority, however, this negative view of youth appears to be far removed from reality.

A survey reported in Psychology Today found that ‘nearly three quarters of those surveyed appeared to be well-adjusted. They were generally happy, self-controlled, caring toward others, concerned with the repercussions of their actions.’ Far from being alienated from their parents, most youths were found to “hold very positive attitudes toward their families.”

Other surveys reveal that many of the hopes, aspirations, and fears of today’s youths likewise reflect sane, sober thinking. In 1985 the Unesco Courier asked youths in 41 lands: “What is the problem of most concern to all young people today?” They received such thoughtful answers as “problems of war and peace” (50 percent), “unemployment and work” (30 percent), and “the future” (10 percent).

Even when the focus shifts to personal ambitions, youths again take a surprisingly pragmatic approach. After polling “a nationally representative group of young [U.S.] men and women ages fourteen to twenty-one,” Seventeen magazine told its young readers: “More than anything else, you want to get married and have a family. The second thing you want is a job or a career. You aim to make money. You are worried about money, too, and education. But more than 60 percent of you don’t believe the problems of the world are too great for your generation to make things better.”

By and large, then, youths the world over want the very same things their elders seek: happiness, security, close families. They are concerned about the world they live in and sincerely want to improve it. Nevertheless, there is a dark side to this portrait.

Sad and Self-Destructive Youths

The aforementioned study made this grim discovery: “One-quarter of the adolescents tested said they are frequently sad and lonely and feel empty emotionally, as well as overwhelmed by life’s problems. A few even admitted suicidal thoughts and leanings.” In some lands youths go beyond mere thinking. The suicide rate among older teenagers in the United States virtually doubled in the last 20 years!a

Another cause of great concern is the worldwide increase in teenage use of drugs, such as marijuana, heroin, cocaine, and crack, a form of cocaine. One 14-year-old girl in the United States said about marijuana smoking: “It’s not even the ‘in’ thing anymore. It’s just part of everybody’s life almost.”

Neither have developing lands escaped this problem. The sight of youths smoking coca paste and similar substances is common in many such lands. UN Secretary-General Javier Pérez de Cuéllar thus said that the problem of illicit trafficking in and abuse of drugs “presents as destructive a threat to present and coming generations as the plagues which swept many parts of the world in earlier ages.”

The use of legal drugs, such as alcohol and tobacco, among youths also has many experts—and parents—worried. Reports the UN Chronicle: “Over the past 30 to 40 years, according to WHO [World Health Organization], increasing percentages of children and adolescents have begun to drink alcohol; the quantities and frequency of consumption have increased; and the age at which drinking begins has declined.”

Granted, only a minority of young people are depressed or engaging in self-destructive behavior. Worldwide, however, it still amounts to many millions who have severe problems. As we will next see, young people today are being exposed to stresses and pressures that are unique to the times we are living in.

[Footnotes]

According to the book Helping Your Teenager Deal With Stress, some believe that “car crashes are the method used most often by older youths committing suicide.” Since automobile accidents are not generally counted as suicides, teen suicide statistics may be understated.

Today’s Youth—The Challenges They Face

“RESEARCH shows that the teen years are without a doubt among the most confusing and stressful times of life.” So wrote Dr. Bettie B. Youngs in her book Helping Your Teenager Deal With Stress. In times past, youths had their hands full just being young. Nowadays, though, they must deal with both the travails of adolescence and the formidable adult pressures of life in the 1990’s.

Wrote Dr. Herbert Friedman in World Health magazine: “The transition from child to adult has never before taken place in a period of such dramatic change, be it the extraordinary increase in the world’s population, the accelerated urbanisation which has accompanied it, and the technological revolutions in communications and travel that have almost overnight created conditions never seen before.”

One teenage girl named Kathy thus says: “It is so hard growing up in a time like ours.” Drug addiction, suicide, alcohol abuse—these are the reactions of some youths to the stresses and strains of these “critical times hard to deal with.”—2 Timothy 3:1.

Revolution in the Family

Dr. Youngs recalls: “Our parents had time for us. Many of us had mothers who made full-time careers of child rearing.” But today, “many women cannot or choose not to stay at home and rear their children full-time. They work and have to juggle careers and families. There aren’t enough hours in the day; something has to give. Too often, what gives is the time and support a parent can give her child. During the most vulnerable time of life, a teenager is left alone to cope with physical, mental, and emotional changes.”—Helping Your Teenager Deal With Stress.

The 1990’s will no doubt continue to see family structures dramatically altered by divorce (50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce), illegitimate births, and the growing trend for couples to live together though unmarried. Already, about 1 out of 4 families in the United States is headed by a single parent. A growing number of families are stepfamilies formed by remarriage.

Are children in such family structures at risk of emotional or psychological damage? Some claim, for example, that children in single-parent households are more prone to loneliness, sadness, and insecurity than are youths raised in traditional families. True, many single-parent families and stepfamilies function with little apparent detriment to the children. The Scriptures make it clear, though, that God intended for children to be reared by two parents. (Ephesians 6:1, 2) Variations from this ideal situation are sure to bring added stresses and strains.

A revolution in family life is also going on in many developing lands. There, the traditional structure was the extended family, in which all adult family members had a share in raising children. Urbanization and industrialization are rapidly cutting extended family ties—and the flow of needed support for youths.

Writes one young African woman: “There are no aunts or any other relative to counsel me on what it means to grow up. Parents expect this subject to be covered at school—and the school leaves it to the parents. The sense of children belonging to the community is no longer there.”a

Economic Anxieties

Young people also feel much anxiety over the world’s worsening economy. In fact, 4 out of 5 youths live in developing lands and face the prospects of life-long poverty and unemployment. Says 17-year-old Luv, a resident of India: “Amongst youth in our country, at present there is a great deal of unemployment, so is it surprising that young people get sick and unhappy, fall victim to vices, run away from home or even commit suicide?”

Youths in the affluent West have money worries of their own. Consider, for example, a U.S. teen survey reported in the magazine Children Today: “When questioned about specific topics that concerned them, teenagers tended to identify issues relating to money and the future.” Among the top ten concerns of teens were “paying for college,” the “country heading for [an economic] depression,” and “not earning enough.”

Ironically, though, some experts believe that even financially advantaged youths will suffer in the long run. Newsweek magazine observed: “By the ’80s, three out of four [U.S.] high-school seniors were working an average of 18 hours a week and often taking home more than $200 a month”—probably more pocket money than their parents had! Predictably, these “earnings were immediately spent on cars, clothing, stereos and other artifacts of the adolescent good life.”

Writer Bruce Baldwin notes that such youths “grow up with expectations . . . that the good life will always be available for the asking whether they develop personal accountability and achievement motivation or not.” But they “suffer a rude awakening when they leave home. The artificial home environment may in fact be so far removed from the real expectations of the marketplace and the demands of mature adult functioning that they may experience something akin to culture shock.”

Shifting Moral Codes and Values

Dramatic shifts in morals and other values are also a source of confusion among youths. “Sex . . . in my grandmother’s youth was a word unheard of,” says Ramani, a young woman from Sri Lanka. “Sex in marriage was not discussed, not even in the family or with the doctor, and sex outside marriage was nonexistent.” However, old taboos have all but vanished. “Teenage sex has become almost a way of life,” she reports.

Not surprisingly, when a survey was taken of 510 high (secondary) school students in the United States, their number two concern was “that they might contract AIDS”! But now that the door of the “new morality” has been flung open, few youths seem willing to take seriously any talk of closing it by practicing monogamy—much less by waiting till marriage. As one French youth asked: “At our age, can we commit ourselves to be faithful all our life?” AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases will thus continue to threaten the life and health of many youths.

What Kind of Future?

Young people have another nagging concern. The prospect of inheriting a ruined earth—its atmosphere depleted of ozone, its temperatures soaring under a global greenhouse effect, its lush forests stripped away, its air and water unfit for breathing and drinking—worries many youths. Although diminishing at present, the threat of nuclear war makes some wonder if mankind will even have a future!

It is clear, then, that young people today face enormous challenges. Without help, direction, and guidance, their present and future happiness is at serious risk. And without hope for the future, no sense of security can be attained. Fortunately, help for today’s youth is readily available.

[Footnotes]

This and other quotations from youths in developing lands are taken from the March 1989 issue of World Health magazine.

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The breaking up of families through divorce and separation has deprived many youths of needed parental support

Today’s Youth—Meeting the Challenges of the 1990’s

NOVEMBER 1985. Dignitaries from 103 lands gathered at the United Nations headquarters to map out “a global strategy addressing the problems of the world’s young people.”—UN Chronicle.

Five years have elapsed, and the problems of youth loom larger than ever. Clashes of political philosophy, a dearth of funds, and ever-shifting priorities have frustrated the well-meaning attempts of governments to work together in behalf of young people.

Religion has likewise failed to be an effective force for good. Recent Gallup surveys in the United States reveal that while the vast majority of youths (about 90 percent) believe in God (or a universal spirit), only a minority consider religion to be very important in their lives. Furthermore, religion has done little or nothing to curb promiscuous sexual behavior.

Then there are the so-called experts—psychologists, sociologists, counselors, and the like—who dispense advice to youths. Some of it is sound and helpful. Their advice, though, tends to focus on physical concerns: the economic hardships of teen pregnancy, avoiding AIDS, the physical dangers of drug abuse. Rarely, if ever, do they confront the far more important moral issues involved. The “experts” are generally content to follow the current swings of popular sentiment or to repeat catchy slogans, such as “Safe sex” or “Just say no!”

What about parents? All too many are preoccupied with the business of living. Insecure as to what guidance to give or uncomfortable with discussing delicate matters, many parents tend to beg off when touchy issues arise. Little wonder, then, that many youths turn to inexperienced peers for help.

The Best Source of Help for Youths

How, then, can youths get practical answers to the questions that perplex them? Questions such as: ‘Should I give drugs and alcohol a try?’ ‘What about sex before marriage?’ ‘How do I know if it is real love?’ ‘What does the future hold for me?’

It may surprise some to hear that the best source of advice for youths is God’s Word, the Bible. The Bible? Yes, it has much to say to young people. (See Proverbs, chapters 1-7; Ephesians 6:1-3.) Furthermore, it was inspired by our Creator, who is keenly aware of “the turbulent desires of youth.” (2 Timothy 2:20-22, Phillips; 2 Ti 3:16) Before you brush aside the idea that this ancient book could be pertinent to life in the 1990’s, consider: Is it likely that most of the advice being proffered by today’s “experts” will be read and respected a mere 50 years from now? Yet, the Bible continues to be taken seriously thousands of years after it was written!

True, human society has changed much since Bible times, but human nature has not. Youthful desires are still basically the same. The Bible is thus as current as ever. And it gets right to the root of many of the problems that concern youths today. At the same time, it offers young people a hope for the future.

Since the Bible comes from our Creator, we would expect its counsel to be workable, practical. The true-life experiences of thousands of Christian youths today, who follow the Bible’s advice, prove that it is! To help young people, the Watch Tower Society has published a book called Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work. It covers a wide spectrum of the concerns of youths, and its counsel is consistently based on the Bible! The enthusiastic response of young readers to this book testifies not only to the efficacy of the Bible’s instruction but to the fact that young people want and thrive on Bible direction. The following article presents some of the heartfelt expressions made by youths from all over the world.

Whether you are young or old, you owe it to yourself to become familiar with the Bible. Jehovah’s Witnesses have helped millions do so through a free home Bible study arrangement, and they would be more than happy to assist you. By becoming familiar with and applying the Bible’s counsel, youths can learn not only practical solutions to today’s problems but the way to gain the favor of God, who invites young ones to serve him.—Ecclesiastes 12:1.

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Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work

Here is just a sampling of the Bible counsel offered in this book on some current issues.

The AIDS Epidemic: “Avoid immorality. Any other sin a man [or, woman] commits does not affect his body; but the man who is guilty of sexual immorality sins against his own body.”—1 Corinthians 6:18, “Today’s English Version”; compare Proverbs 5:3-20.

Abuse of Alcohol: “Do not come to be among heavy drinkers of wine, among those who are gluttonous eaters of flesh. For a drunkard and a glutton will come to poverty, and drowsiness will clothe one with mere rags. At its end [wine] bites just like a serpent, and it secretes poison just like a viper.”—Proverbs 23:20, 21, 32.

Employment: “Have you beheld a man skillful in his work? Before kings is where he will station himself; he will not station himself before commonplace men.”—Proverbs 22:29.

“Whatever you are doing, work at it whole-souled as to Jehovah, and not to men.”—Colossians 3:23.

Fear of Nuclear Extermination: “This is what Jehovah has said, the Creator of the heavens, He the true God, the Former of the earth and the Maker of it, He the One who firmly established it, who did not create it simply for nothing, who formed it even to be inhabited.”—Isaiah 45:18; 55:10, 11; Ecclesiastes 1:4.

Economic Uncertainty: “They will certainly build houses and have occupancy; and they will certainly plant vineyards and eat their fruitage. They will not build and someone else have occupancy; they will not plant and someone else do the eating. . . . They will not toil for nothing.”—Isaiah 65:21-23.

Reader Response to the Book “Young People Ask”

SOME thought they were in trouble. “I thought they wanted to counsel us on our conduct,” said one 15-year-old girl named Shereda. Others were simply apprehensive. A ten-year-old British lad named Timothy recalls: “When I found out I had to sit away from my mum and dad, I didn’t want to go.”

The cause of this anxiety? An announcement made on Friday morning of the 1989 “Godly Devotion” District Conventions of Jehovah’s Witnessesa that youths between the ages of 10 and 19 were to sit in a reserved section. Any apprehension was put to rest when the book Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work was released and distributed free of charge to all the youths present. The reactions?

“I was lost for words; tears ran down my face.”—Mike.

“It brought tears to my eyes when I saw the fantastic information in the book. Just the fact that it was a gift from the Governing Body of Jehovah’s Witnesses to the youth was an example of just how much they care about us.”—Eighteen-year-old Margie.

A ten-year-old named Naomi, whose father recently died, particularly appreciated receiving the book. She recalls:

“This was the first large assembly our family went to without my daddy. I was so sad the first day. But it made me happy to know that our brothers and our heavenly Father, Jehovah, are taking care of us until we have our daddy back in the new world.”

The book covers, in condensed form, about half the “Young People Ask . . .” articles that have appeared in the Awake! magazine from 1982 to 1989. It has 39 chapters, grouped by subject into ten sections. (See box next page.) What is the value of having all this information in one handy book? One youth explains: “Often I knew I should look up previous ‘Young People Ask . . .’ articles to help me with a problem, but I never seemed to get around to it. Now there’s a publication that I can pick up at any time to use as a guide.”

The Young People Ask book also has powerful visual appeal. “I love the colorful pictures,” says 11-year-old Heather. The photos portray youths from all over the world. Said a Canadian youth: “The illustrations are most captivating and well represent our real feelings when we are faced with a problem.” Little wonder, then, that many youths began devouring its contents immediately.

‘I Couldn’t Stop Reading It’

One 17-year-old girl wrote, on hotel stationery:

“We’re halfway home from our convention and have four hours of driving ahead of us. I’ve already read ten chapters.”

Some were hooked by the table of contents:

“When I read the table of contents, it was like looking at my own life. So many of the questions were ones I had asked myself at one time or another.”—Sixteen-year-old Kathy.

Even some “nonreaders” were won over:

“I don’t like reading that much, but this book is so good that when I start reading it, I can’t put it down. I have read almost the whole book in three days.”—Fifteen-year-old Jennifer.

“I’m not the best reader and don’t read a lot. After I got home from the convention, I was tired and could hardly keep my eyes open. But I thumbed through this publication, began reading, and read a whole chapter! Since then, I’ve read a chapter every day, till tonight—I read two!”—Seventeen-year-old Tiffany.

And there were some skeptics:

“I thought I would be a little too old for some parts of the book. So I started reading Section 6, ‘Sex and Morals.’ This helped me tremendously in making some major decisions. No one is too old for this book!”—Nineteen-year-old Sabrina.

Indeed, having finished it, many feel that reading it once is not enough:

“I got baptized a year ago, but things got rough, and I got depressed. Once I even ran away from home! So when I received the new book, I felt that Jehovah knew just what I needed. It is fantastic! I’ve already read it twice.”—J. S.

“I am writing down every scripture word for word inside of the book so it will make it easier for me to read the book the second time around. No exaggeration: This book has made me a better person.”—Eighteen-year-old Aida.

‘You Never Feel You Are Being Told What to Do’

Over a year has elapsed since the release of the Young People Ask book, yet appreciative comments continue to be received. Part of the reason for its success is no doubt that while it is directed to young people, the book is not childish; nor is it written in a way that makes its readers feel that they are being preached to. Some youths put it this way:

“This book even has a touch of humor to it. Backed up by God’s Word, the Bible, it is far better than any teen magazine.”

“You never feel that you are being told what to do; rather, you are made aware of several possibilities and the consequences of each one. Jehovah’s viewpoint is always clearly shown and backed up Scripturally.”

Many expressed appreciation for the tone of the writing and the insight it showed into their feelings.

“My father has never shown any form of affection for me, but the counsel contained in the book seemed to come from a loving father who counsels us for our benefit.”—Stefano, Italy.

“The feeling I immediately got was that of talking to someone who knew me very well and not that of reading a printed page.”—Myriam, Italy.

“Many of the examples used were so close to home. I could relate to them completely.”—A teenage girl.

“I know there are no teenagers on the Governing Body. Yet, all that you write about young people is so accurate; it’s like being talked to directly by Jehovah himself.”—Fifteen-year-old Aubree.

Not Just for Young People

Many chapters offer insight into problems faced by adult Christians, problems such as shyness, depression, loneliness, and unemployment. Not surprisingly, then, many adults have also expressed appreciation for the book. Said the wife of a traveling minister of Jehovah’s Witnesses:

“My husband and I don’t have any children of our own. However, I found the way the material is presented to be of value to us also. The book could just as easily have been entitled ‘Questions People Ask—Answers That Work!’”

Other adults heartily agree:

“There are sentences, phrases, and principles that have been very beneficial to my youthful life of 41.”

“You wouldn’t think a book written for young people could help a woman of 61. But it helped me to think positively about the past and to give up the grudge I have held against my parents.”

“I found out that ‘older people ask’ also. Nothing in my long years as a Christian has ever helped me more to understand myself. Incidentally, I am 74 years young.”

Letters have also been received from many Christian parents:

“I have three teenagers, and this book was an answer to my prayers. Thank you for being there for us. Satan is trying everything to draw my children away. But now I’m equipped to do my utmost with skill, thanks to this timely book.”

“This system wears us down on a day-to-day basis. My youngest child is 12, and his interest in spiritual things has taken a real beating over the past year. I can’t tell you how good it is to see that he is working toward baptism as a result of the convention and this new book.”

“Tears came to my eyes as my children received their copies. No other religious organizations care so much about their young people!”

“I’m a single parent, and I feel really scared and not qualified enough sometimes as a parent. My oldest son is 11 years old and has a teacher that doesn’t like him. How comforting to find a chapter in the Young People Ask book that dealt with that situation!”

Many testified to the effectiveness of a feature called “Questions for Discussion” appearing at the end of each chapter:

“We read the book together as part of our regular family Bible study. It has drawn all of us closer. I notice that the children are at ease with the questions, and it really lends itself to an opening up of feelings that may not be so easy to express.”

Answers That Really Work!

Of course, the test of this book’s value is not its popularity but its practicality. In other words, do its answers really work? Many youths enthusiastically affirm that they do:

“Before I read this book, I was just tagging along to the Kingdom Hall with my mother and my sister because I couldn’t stay at home alone. I was leading a double life. Now all that has changed a whole lot for the better.”

“You can leave the truth, but it doesn’t leave you. At the age of 27, I tried coming back to the Kingdom Hall—alone, scared, and repentant. I had severe bad habits and felt that God could never forgive me. But an older sister gave me the new Young People Ask book. I found that it discussed all my problems and told how to deal with them. I cried. I can’t express my appreciation enough for this book. Answers that work—and how!!!”

“The book got me to do some serious thinking. At first I really didn’t consider myself to be one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. I had a girlfriend. I was hanging out with people of the world. I even used to steal. But after reading the book, I realized I was doing something wrong in my life. I prayed to Jehovah that he would forgive me and thanked him for giving me this wonderful new book.”

These are but a sampling of the hundreds of letters received. We are encouraged and deeply moved by the fine response of you young ones. Clearly, you want to do what is right, and you appreciate the direction Jehovah lovingly provides in his Word. It is also evident that the answers from God’s Word truly work!

You will therefore be glad to know that the series “Young People Ask . . .” in Awake! will continue dispensing sound, Bible-based advice on subjects that concern you. Do not miss a single article! And if you have not done so already, read—and reread—the publication Questions Young People Ask—Answers That Work.b Share it with your classmates. Look up the scriptures cited. Discuss the chapters with your parents. Apply its counsel. And no doubt you’ll agree with 16-year-old Kent, who said: “It’s like having a handbook to help me through the most impressionable years of my life.”

[Footnotes]

Held worldwide beginning in June 1989.

Available by writing the publishers of this magazine.

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Contents

Section 1

The Home Front:

Dealing With Family Members

Chapter Page

1 Why Should I ‘Honor My Father and My Mother’? 11

2 Why Don’t My Parents Understand Me? 18

3 How Can I Get My Folks to Give Me More Freedom? 26

4 Why Did Dad and Mom Split Up? 34

5 How Can I Deal With My Parent’s Remarriage? 42

6 Why Are My Brother and Sister So 50

Hard to Get Along With?

7 Should I Leave Home? 56

Section 2

You and Your Peers

8 How Can I Make Real Friends? 65

9 How Can I Cope With Peer Pressure? 73

Section 3

A Look at How You Look

10 How Important Are Looks? 82

11 Do My Clothes Reveal the Real Me? 90

Section 4

Why Do I Feel This Way?

12 Why Don’t I Like Myself? 98

13 Why Do I Get So Depressed? 104

14 How Can I Make My Loneliness Go Away? 115

15 Why Am I So Shy? 121

16 Is It Normal to Grieve the Way I Do? 127

Section 5

School and Work

17 Should I Quit School? 134

18 How Can I Improve My Grades? 140

19 Why Won’t the Kids Leave Me Alone? 150

20 How Can I Get Along With My Teacher? 158

21 How Can I Get (and Keep!) a Job? 166

22 What Career Should I Choose? 174

Section 6

Sex and Morals

23 What About Sex Before Marriage? 181

24 How Can I Say No to Premarital Sex? 192

25 Masturbation—How Serious Is It? 198

26 Masturbation—How Can I Fight the Urge? 205

27 Honesty—Is It Really the Best Policy? 212

Section 7

Dating, Love, and the Opposite Sex

28 How Can I Get Over a Crush? 219

29 Am I Ready to Date? 225

30 Am I Ready for Marriage? 236

31 How Do I Know If It’s Real Love? 242

32 How Can I Carry On a Successful Courtship? 252

Section 8

The Trap of Drugs and Alcohol

33 Drinking—Why Not? 262

34 Why Say No to Drugs? 272

Section 9

Leisure Time

35 Does It Matter What I Read? 283

36 How Can I Control My TV Viewing Habits? 289

37 Why Can’t I Have a Good Time Once in a While? 296

Section 10

Your Future

38 What Does the Future Hold for Me? 305

39 How Can I Get Close to God? 311

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‘My Favorite Part of the Book Is . . .’

Many youths commented on which of the ten sections (listed below) of the book Young People Ask particularly helped them:

The Home Front: “My sister and I always fight. But the book has helped me to be good to my sister. And if we fight, we say we’re sorry and that we didn’t mean what we said.”

“I used to think that my sister got everything she wanted, but I now realize I was jealous of her. I realize, too, that my parents aren’t being unfair but are only trying their best to spread their love around.”

“It helped me to know that my mom and dad didn’t split up because of me.”

You and Your Peers: “It helped me to understand that if I want a friend, I have to be one. Also, I learned not to hang around with kids who are bad associations.”

A Look at How You Look: “I thought I was overweight, and I would barely eat anything for days. But I would gorge myself the next day and gain the weight back. I decided I was ugly and unattractive. A dear friend told me to read the section on ‘looks.’ Tears ran down my face as I read it. I have now set my priorities straight, and I am concentrating on my service to God—not my appearance.”

Why Do I Feel This Way?: “I was severely depressed, to the point of having strong suicidal thoughts. Now I’ve begun trying to face my fears and have received professional help. I was so relieved to read there will be an end to this ‘constant dread.’”

School and Work: “I’ve been having trouble with my grades and with being picked on at school. I plan to use the counsel at school.”

Sex and Morals: “There are a lot of pressures put upon teens to do wrong, but by applying Bible principles, I can resist my peers.”

“I have the problem of masturbation, and it is causing me great distress. But I will make a real effort to apply this counsel and try to be the best youth I can be for my heavenly Father.”

Dating, Love, and the Opposite Sex: “I have had more than a crush on one girl for some time now. I don’t do stupid stuff or embarrass myself around her. Still, I had the feelings you described. The book helped me realize this was just infatuation and that I wasn’t old enough to date yet.”

The Trap of Drugs and Alcohol: “I am a freshman in high school, and they have already offered me drugs. The book helps me to say no.”

Leisure Time: “I used to watch TV Monday through Friday. The book helped me cut down on my TV viewing—Sunday and Friday only!”

Your Future: “I used to think that the Bible was boring—but not anymore! I try to read it 15 minutes every day!”

“It has really helped me in my prayers. Now I can talk to Jehovah as to a very close friend.”

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A group of youths from France sent this photo (right) as a symbol of ‘the loving protection and support’ of Jehovah and his organization in providing the book Young People Ask

Rock Badgers—Lovable and Instinctively Wise

By Awake! correspondent in South Africa

WHAT creatures does the Bible call “instinctively wise . . . not mighty, and yet upon a crag is where they put their house”? These remarkable little fellows, about the size of a rabbit, are called conies, marmots, or rock badgers in different translations of the Bible.—Proverbs 30:24-26.

The rock badger is a hyrax, found only in parts of Africa and extreme southwestern Asia. In southern Africa, where he is found in great numbers, he is known as rock dassie, a name derived from the Dutch word for “badger.”

Although dassies look somewhat like rodents, they have certain features that are actually “a mixture of everything,” according to scientist Gerrie de Graaff. “Their incisors resemble those of rodents, their molars those of rhinos, their vascular system that of whales and their feet those of elephants!” No wonder they have the zoologists puzzled!

As they are not very fast-moving animals, nor able to defend themselves very well, dassies wisely live in the crags and crevices of rocky outcrops or cliffs. These provide shelter from wind and rain, as well as protection from predators. Understandably, then, they seldom venture far afield except for their two main meals a day.

And what meals! For such small creatures, they eat an astonishing amount of plant material. Even more astonishing is the speed with which it is all gobbled up. Why, they spend less than an hour a day at it! And their digestive system, which copes marvelously with this habit, is described by zoologist J. J. C. Sauer as being “unique in the animal kingdom.”

No Easy Meal

A common sight in rocky areas is dassies, looking very much like rocks themselves, basking in the brilliant African sunshine. Very tempting that is for the black eagle, who has a special fondness for dassies. But the little fellow is not so easily taken. His eyesight is so keen that he can detect movement more than half a mile [a kilometer] away! And even if the eagle is right against the sun, the dassie will spot him. How is that possible? His eyes are equipped with a special membrane that filters the sun’s rays, enabling him to look directly into the sun without harm. No sooner is the enemy spotted than the alarm is given—a sharp bark by the sentry dassie—and immediately the rocks are cleared, all dassies having dropped down into the crevices between and under the rocks. The eagle will have to try again for his meal.

Highly Sociable

Community living—what an advantage it is at night when dassies feel the cold! It is so helpful to have fellow dassies to lie with, pressed tightly together, all facing outward. Some may even pile on top of the huddled group until there are three or four layers of dassies—up to 25 at a time—sharing warmth with one another!

It could have its drawbacks, though, as they are aggressive little animals. But their instinctive wisdom comes to the rescue. Dr. P. B. Fourie explains: “They normally lie with their heads away from one another, do not feed in close proximity to one another and utter a variety of appeasement calls when they are forced to move closely past one another.” And because their calls are usually low-pitched and can be heard only a few yards [meters] away, they can communicate with one another without attracting predators.

Agile and Lovable Pets

Many an observer has marveled at the way dassies can dash up a smooth rock-face that is almost perpendicular. How do they do it? By forming their feet, which have thick, soft soles, into friction pads. And because their feet are always damp, being the only parts of their bodies that perspire, the traction is that much stronger.

These endearing creatures are easily tamed. And there is no need to worry about their cleanliness—they constantly groom themselves with a hind foot, which has a handy little claw specially for that purpose. In her book Born Free, Joy Adamson confesses to being puzzled at first that her pet dassie habitually scratched herself. Later she realized that with this claw, the dassie kept her fur sleek, so that neither flea nor tick was ever found on her.

How would one go about housebreaking a pet dassie? No need to. In the wild, they set aside a specific location to be used as a toilet by the whole colony. So as pets, dassies “spontaneously learn to use the toilet,” explains Fourie. “Without flushing it, of course!” he adds. And so it was with Joy Adamson’s dassie. “Her excretory habits were peculiar . . . At home Pati invariably perched herself on the rim of the lavatory seat, and thus situated presented a comical sight. On safari where no such refinements were provided for her, she was completely bewildered, so we had eventually to rig up a small lavatory for her.”

How delightful it will be in time to become fully acquainted with these and other creatures that Jehovah has made “instinctively wise”!

From Hitler’s Army to a Ministry in Spain

As told by Georg Reuter (above, holding flag)

WHAT is the meaning of life? For most of us, there comes a time in life when we ask that crucial question. A death in the family, a serious accident, or just the ravages of old age may compel us to reflect on the whys and wherefores of our existence.

In my case it happened in the summer of 1930, when I was only six years old. I lived with my parents in the city of Essen, Germany. I will never forget how my carefree world was shattered the day I found our beloved canary dead in its cage. ‘How could this happen?’ I asked myself. ‘It has always sung so beautifully.’

I gently put the dead bird into an empty can and buried it in our garden. But I couldn’t forget the matter. Although weeks and months passed, I kept pondering its fate until I could contain my curiosity no longer. I marched resolutely into the garden and dug up the can. When I opened it, what a surprise! The bird was no longer there. All that remained was a few bones and feathers. Was that all there was to the life of a bird? And what about us? What happens to us when we die?

At that time my questions remained unanswered. But unknown to me, there were horrendous events looming on the horizon, events that would make me search more fervently for the answers to those nagging questions of my childhood.

Nazi Brainwashing and Violence

The years passed quickly, and I became an apprentice in the building trade. Meantime, Hitler had come to power, and his propaganda machine was running at top speed to brainwash the nation. People would say “Heil Hitler!” instead of “Good morning.” Everywhere there were uniforms: the Jungvolk (Young Folk), the Hitler-Jugend (Hitler Youth), the Bund Deutscher Mädchen (League of German Girls), the SA (Sturmabteilungen, or storm troopers), and the SS (Schutzstaffel, Hitler’s elite guard). And I remember vividly the countless parades, the music and the fanfare in the streets—it was an exciting time for an impressionable youngster.

Soon I found myself participating, carried along by the general enthusiasm. The air was filled with such nationalistic slogans as, “Today, Germany is ours; tomorrow, the whole world will be ours” and, “The flag means more than death.” Gullible teenager that I was, I accepted them at face value.

But even in those early years, there was an ugly side to the Nazi regime. One morning in November 1938, I saw a Jewish synagogue in flames. Strangely, there were firemen standing around, but they didn’t move a finger to put out the fire. That same day the main shopping mall was covered with broken glass. Jewish shops had been plundered and vandalized during what later came to be called Kristallnacht (Crystal Night). These acts had been organized by the SS as “spontaneous demonstrations” of popular protest against the Jews. Hatred of the Jews was preached everywhere.

My Role in World War II

When I was 16 years old, I heard the fateful radio announcement on September 1, 1939: German troops had crossed the Polish border. The invasion of Poland had begun, and World War II had erupted.

When my apprenticeship was completed, I entered the German army. After my initial training, I was sent to Poland where I witnessed the burning of the Jewish ghetto of Warsaw. I saw trains loaded with pathetic people, en route to the fearful concentration camps. Something seemed horribly wrong, but I dismissed my doubts. I still trusted in the infallible wisdom of the Führer.

Soon after the German invasion of the Soviet Union, I was sent to the Caucasus region. How sad it was to see such a beautiful area soaked with the blood of war! Then came the dreadful winter of 1942-43, for which the German army was totally unprepared. We could not even bury our dead comrades in the frozen soil. That winter marked the end of our advance—the battle of Stalingrad was lost; a whole army was lost. Although Hitler’s propaganda described our retreat as an establishment of “secure frontiers,” we soldiers just wanted to get back home as best we could. Those harsh realities of war finally convinced me that Hitler’s grandiose dreams were nothing more than shallow make-believe.

During the retreat from the U.S.S.R., I was hit by shrapnel. It caused a serious chest wound, and I was taken to a military hospital. There, I came face-to-face with the appalling aftermath of war: the mutilated soldiers, the despair, and the abject futility of it all. My thoughts returned to that dead canary. Was there really any difference between men and animals?

I was one of the fortunate ones. I recovered from my injuries and also came out of the war alive. At the end of the war, I was sent to a French prisoner-of-war camp, but finally I was able to return to my family, all of whom had survived those terrible years.

My Outlook Changed Forever

During my long absence, my parents and my brother had become Jehovah’s Witnesses, so we were soon engrossed in long conversations about religion. I couldn’t believe in a God who would permit so much wickedness and suffering. We German soldiers had worn a belt with a buckle inscribed “God with us.” But where, I asked, had God been when we were suffering and dying? The clergy had assured us that Hitler was a gift from God, but thanks to him our country lay in ruins.

Using the Bible as the basis for his explanation, my father patiently showed me why we were living in such trying times. He helped me to understand that God does not support either side in men’s wars and that very soon He would be “making wars to cease to the extremity of the earth.” (Psalm 46:9) He showed me from the Scriptures that as far as death itself is concerned, there is “no superiority of the man over the beast.”—Ecclesiastes 3:19.

The following Sunday, my parents invited me to accompany them to a public talk sponsored by Jehovah’s Witnesses. I shall never forget that day. The meeting was held at a school where small benches served as seats. I had no desire to return to school, yet here I was, sitting with my long legs tucked under one of those tiny benches. But the talk presented was so interesting that it made me forget my discomfort. During the second hour, I noticed that the entire audience zealously participated in the consideration of a Bible subject, offering answers to the questions raised by the conductor of the meeting.

When the meeting was over, many of those present came over to welcome me. Their sincere friendliness overwhelmed me. I was quite a heavy smoker, so the fact that nobody smoked struck me right away.

From that day onward, I went to all the Witnesses’ meetings and even offered my own comments. At last, things were beginning to become clear to me. I realized that God was not the one to blame for all the bloodshed of World War II. I learned that it was his purpose to establish an earth-wide paradise with everlasting blessings for obedient mankind. And there was a place for me in that divine purpose if I so desired.

This was certainly a message worth publicizing. Hitler had boasted about his “Thousand-Year Reich” but had only ruled for 12—and with what a ghastly outcome! It is Christ rather than Hitler, or, indeed, any other human ruler, who can and will establish a thousand-year reign over the earth, after removing all forms of wickedness that presently afflict mankind.—Revelation 20:4.

That wonderful hope enthralled me, and I couldn’t wait to tell my friends about these things. At last I had found the real meaning of life. Of course, I had to quit smoking first, something that by no means was easy for me. But I set a date, and from that day onward, I refused to contaminate myself with tobacco. I realized that as a minister of God, I was required to free myself from “every defilement of flesh and spirit.”—2 Corinthians 7:1.

Full-Time Bethel Service

After my dedication and baptism, I soon began to work as a full-time minister of Jehovah’s Witnesses, along with my brother. We finished our secular work at noon, and then we would travel by bicycle to the area where we were to preach. Although we had hardly any literature in those early postwar years, we cared as best we could for the interest we found, leaving magazines, books, or brochures on a temporary basis so that as many people as possible could benefit from the message. But soon this situation was to change.

Brother Nathan H. Knorr, who was then president of the Watch Tower Society, had recently visited Germany and had seen the need for more literature. Soon the first shipments arrived from Brooklyn, which meant extra work at the branch office in Germany distributing this literature to all the congregations. One day my brother and I received a telegram saying: “Come immediately to the Bible House [Bethel].”

I remember commenting to my brother that such an assignment would surely give us the opportunity to study the Bible almost all day long. But such misconceptions about Bethel were quickly dispelled when we were told on arrival: “We need one man for the printery and another for the Shipping Department! So please think it over, and then decide who will volunteer for which job.” I ended up working in the Shipping Department, and my brother in the printery.

During those busy days, our time for Bible reading was certainly limited. Sometimes we worked around the clock in order to send all the literature to the congregations on time. Nevertheless, association with faithful brothers, such as Erich Frost, Konrad Franke, and August Peters, all of whom had spent many years in concentration camps, contributed greatly to our spiritual growth.

In the department where I worked, there was a young sister, Magdalena Kusserow. She had endured four years in a concentration camp for refusing to give the “Heil Hitler!” salute, whereas I had been sent to a French prisoner-of-war camp for having fought misguidedly in behalf of that ideal. Nevertheless, the truth of God’s Word had brought us together. We had the same goals, and we decided we wanted to serve God together.a

Locomotive Kitchen

After our marriage, we were eager to continue in full-time service, knowing that there was so much work to do. And we were blessed with many interesting assignments. For example, in 1951, I was assigned to supervise the Cafeteria Department for the three-day convention in Frankfurt am Main, where we planned to feed some 35,000 delegates.

Ahead of us was a daunting task—to provide, with so little equipment, hot meals for such large numbers. But we hit upon the idea of using 51 large steam kettles, which could be heated by means of a steam locomotive. Where would we find a locomotive? We finally convinced the railway company to lend us one of theirs, and a firm in Frankfurt am Main manufactured some low-pressure valves for us. This meant that the locomotive could supply steam at just the right pressure for cooking.

What a relief it was for all of us when a trial run the day before the convention proved to be a great success! There were extensive newspaper reports describing this “new invention” for mass feeding, accompanied by photographs of our kitchen and the locomotive. Thus, much favorable publicity was given to the “Clean Worship” assembly, where the attendance finally reached over 47,000.

While still at that convention, I received the invitation to serve as a traveling representative of the Watch Tower Society. Accompanied by my wife, I served first in the circuit work, visiting a different congregation each week, and then in the district work, visiting whole circuits at assemblies. What a privilege it was to serve alongside brothers like Martin Poetzinger (who later became a member of the Governing Body of Jehovah’s Witnesses), H. Dickmann, and R. Kelsey. We learned so much from these mature brothers. Each day spent with them turned out to be a blessing because each had different gifts to impart.

Missionary Service in Africa and Spain

In 1961, I had the privilege of attending the Watchtower Bible School of Gilead in Brooklyn, New York, in a class that consisted mainly of brothers and that lasted for ten months. During that time, my wife, who could not accompany me, remained in Germany. Although separated, we exchanged our experiences in our frequent letters, so the time just flew by.

Our missionary assignment was Togo, a small country in West Africa. There we had to learn a new language, Ewe, in order to reach the hearts of the people of that land. It was well worth the effort. To the hospitable people of Togo, any foreigner is a friend, but if he speaks their language, they consider him their brother.

Soon after arriving in Togo, I began conducting a Bible study with a young African named Abraham, who spoke some English. Before long he was accompanying me in the preaching activity, and he proved to be an invaluable assistant in helping me to explain the Bible’s message to Ewe-speaking people.

We made good use of the book From Paradise Lost to Paradise Regained, which contained many pictures and was ideal for conducting Bible studies. Even so, some concepts were hard for the simple rural folk to grasp. How could they understand the number 144,000 mentioned in Revelation chapter 7, when they were familiar with coins of only 25, 50, or, at the most, 100 francs? My companion was adept at using his fingers, and if necessary his toes as well, to overcome this problem. And on other occasions, we would make drawings in the sand.

We felt very sad when we, because of health problems, had to return to Europe, first to Luxembourg and then to Germany. But the missionary spirit was still in our hearts, and after a short while, we thought of moving to serve where the need was greater—to Spain.

After learning another language, we again had the privilege of serving our spiritual brothers in the circuit work and of spending a year at the construction site of the new Bethel Home near Madrid. It has been most satisfying for Magdalena and me to serve here in Spain. Although we don’t have the strength we had before, our lives are meaningful because we keep on learning, and we keep on sharing with others what we have learned.

Looking back, I can say that my search for the meaning of life was greatly rewarded. I saw the fallacy of trusting in men like Hitler, and once I got to know the truth of the Bible, I dedicated myself to God. What satisfaction that has given me! Now I know that my future need not be like that of the dead canary. I have the hope of a meaningful life that will never be cut short!—Revelation 21:1-4.

[Footnotes]

The life story of Magdalena Kusserow Reuter appeared in the September 1, 1985, issue of The Watchtower.

[Picture on page 18]

Georg and Magdalena Reuter in Spain

Which Language Is Spoken Most?

If you are thinking in terms of the most popular international language, you will probably answer “English” to that question. Yet, according to the 1990 World Almanac and Book of Facts, Mandarin Chinese, spoken by some 844 million people, is the language most used by the human family. This compares with 437 million, spread all over the world, who speak English. Which language do you think would be third in the world league? French or Spanish? No. It is Hindi, spoken by 338 million people, mainly in India. Hindi and Urdu, which is spoken by 90 million, mainly in Pakistan, “are essentially the same language, Hindustani,” according to the same publication.

Suicides—A Resurrection?

The Bible’s Viewpoint

Suicides—A Resurrection?

THE tragic news of a suicide does not close a chapter in the lives of relatives and friends; it opens one—a chapter of mixed feelings of pity and anger, sorrow and guilt. And it raises the question: May we entertain any hope for our friend who took his or her life?a

Although self-inflicted death is never justified, never righteous, the apostle Paul did hold out a beautiful hope for even some unrighteous ones. As he told a Roman court of law: “I have hope toward God . . . that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.”—Acts 24:15.

Nevertheless, many theologians have long dismissed any suggestion that the resurrection of the unrighteous might offer hope for those who commit suicide. Why?

Theologians Contradict Resurrection Hope

William Tyndale identified part of the problem in the foreword of his 16th-century Bible: “In putting departed souls in heaven, hell, or purgatory you destroy the arguments wherewith Christ and Paul prove the resurrection.” Yes, centuries ago, churchmen introduced a non-Biblical concept: immortal souls that leave the body at death and go straight to heaven, purgatory, Limbo, or hell. That concept clashed with the Bible’s clear teaching of a future resurrection. As Baptist minister Charles Andrews asked: “If the soul is already blissfully in heaven (or is already justifiably roasting in hell), what need is there for anything further?” He added: “This inner contradiction has remained to plague Christians throughout the centuries.”

One result of such errant theology was that “since Augustine’s time [354-430 C.E.], the church has condemned suicide as a sin,” says Arthur Droge in the Bible Review, December 1989, “a sin beyond redemption, just like apostasy and adultery.”

The harsh verdict of being “beyond redemption,” or hopelessly consigned to hellfire, carried the judgment-at-death argument to its shaky extreme. Admits the National Catholic Reporter: “Two of the church’s greatest doctors railed against suicide—Augustine branding it ‘detestable and damnable wickedness’ and Aquinas indicating it was a mortal [unforgivable] sin against God and the community—but not all churchmen have agreed.”

Happily, we can avoid such “inner contradiction” by accepting two compatible Bible truths. First, “the soul that is sinning—it itself will die.” (Ezekiel 18:4) Second, the real hope for dead souls (people) is to live again through “a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.” (Acts 24:15) What, then, may we reasonably expect for people who commit suicide?

An Unrighteous One to Be Resurrected

Jesus told a criminal sentenced to death: “You will be with me in Paradise.” The man was unrighteous—a lawbreaker rather than a distraught suicide victim—guilty by his own frank admission. (Luke 23:39-43) He had no hope of going to heaven to rule with Jesus. So the Paradise in which this thief could hope to come back to life would be the beautiful earth under the rule of Jehovah God’s Kingdom.—Matthew 6:9, 10; Revelation 21:1-4.

For what purpose will God awaken this criminal? So that He mercilessly can hold his past sins against him? Hardly, for Romans 6:7, 23 says: “He who has died has been acquitted from his sin,” and “the wages sin pays is death.” Although his past sins will not be accounted to him, he will still need the ransom to lift him to perfection.

Therefore, theologian Albert Barnes was wrong and misleading when he asserted: “Those who have done evil shall be raised up to be condemned, or damned. This shall be the object in raising them up; this the sole design.” How beneath a God of justice and love! Rather, a resurrection to life on a paradise earth will furnish this former criminal (and other unrighteous ones) a golden opportunity to be judged by what they do after their resurrection.—1 John 4:8-10.

A Merciful Opportunity

Stunned friends of a suicide victim may thus take comfort in knowing that “Jehovah has shown mercy to those fearing him. For he himself well knows the formation of us, remembering that we are dust.” (Psalm 103:10-14) Only God can fully understand the role of mental sickness, extreme stress, even genetic defects, in a “suicidal crisis,” which, the National Observer noted, “is not a lifetime characteristic [but] often a matter only of minutes or of hours.”—See Ecclesiastes 7:7.

Granted, one who takes his own life deprives himself of the opportunity to repent of his self-murder. But who can say whether one driven to suicide might have had a change of heart had his fatal attempt failed? Some notorious murderers have, in fact, changed and earned God’s forgiveness during their lifetime.—2 Kings 21:16; 2 Chronicles 33:12, 13.

Thus, Jehovah, having paid “a ransom in exchange for many,” is within his right to extend mercy, even to some self-murderers, by resurrecting them and giving them the precious opportunity to “repent and turn to God by doing works that befit repentance.”—Matthew 20:28; Acts 26:20.

The Responsible, Scriptural View of Life

Life is a gift from God, not something to be abused or to end at one’s own hand. (James 1:17) Hence, the Scriptures encourage us to see ourselves, not as immortal souls, but as valuable creations of the God who loves us, who treasures our being alive, and who looks forward with joy to the time of the resurrection.—Job 14:14, 15.

Love strengthens our recognition that suicide—though evading one’s own burdens—only heaps more problems on loved ones left behind. As far as the one who rashly took his own life is concerned, we humans cannot judge as to whether he will get a resurrection or not. How reprehensible was he? God alone searches ‘all hearts and every inclination of the thoughts.’ (1 Chronicles 28:9) But we may be confident that ‘the Judge of all the earth is going to do what is loving, just, and right!’—Genesis 18:25.

[Footnotes]

This article is intended for the survivors of suicide victims. For a fuller discussion of the subject of suicide, see The Watchtower, August 1, 1983, pages 3-11 and Awake!, August 8, 1981, pages 5-12.

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Kollektie Rijksmuseum Kröller-Müller, Otterlo

Part 3—Is ‘Government by the Best’ Really the Best?

Human Rule Weighed in the Balances

Part 3—Is ‘Government by the Best’ Really the Best?

Aristocracy: government by the nobility, a privileged minority, or an elite class thought best qualified to rule; oligarchy: government by the few, either of persons or of families, often for corrupt and selfish purposes.

IT SEEMS logical that the best kind of government would result if it was composed of the best people. The best people are better educated, more qualified, and more competent—so goes the argument—and therefore better able to lead others. An aristocratic government headed by such an elite class may be one of several kinds; for example, rule by the wealthy, a plutocracy; rule by the clergy, a theocracy; or rule by officials, a bureaucracy.

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