The Watchtower, October 15, 1976
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The Watchtower — October 15, 1976
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Contents
The Family Breakdown—Facing Up to It
The Secret of Happy Family Life
A Worldwide Family Gathers for “Sacred Service” District Assemblies
What Does Youth Want out of Life?
Insight on the News
What Does the Proverb Mean?
What Has Brought Happiness to Me
The Worship of the “Wild Beast”—Why True Christians Refuse
The Apostle Peter ‘Strengthens His Brothers’
Peter Champions God’s Truth and Principles
Questions From Readers
Do You Long to Travel to Distant Places?
The Family Breakdown—Facing Up to It
The Family Breakdown—Facing Up to It
“I NEVER would have thought of divorce five years ago,” said a thirty-one-year-old secretary in India. She continued: “I would have suffered through an unhappy marriage until I died. But I heard of other women who were divorced, and then I met one, and that gave me the strength to try.”
Remarks of this nature are also being heard with increasing frequency in other parts of the earth. Family breakups are definitely on the increase. In Sweden there are six divorces for every ten marriages, in the United States about five divorces for every ten marriages, in East Germany about three divorces for every ten marriages and in Finland less than three divorces for every ten marriages. Why are so many married people refusing to stay together?
The comments of the young woman from India well illustrate that there has been a change in attitude about preserving a marriage despite difficulties. No longer is divorce so frowned upon as to restrain marriage breakups. Prominent persons who are often before the public are among the many getting divorces. This has lent a certain label of respectability, making it easier for people to accept the idea of divorce for themselves. Furthermore, there has been a liberalizing of divorce laws in various countries. All these factors have contributed toward making divorce appear like an easy way out of a serious marriage problem.
The women’s liberation movement, too, has had its impact upon the family. It has caused some women to feel that a career is more important than being a housewife and a mother. Work in the home has come to be viewed as unrewarding drudgery. Even in certain lands where women used to have little say, there have been changes. There some wives demand greater voice in the marriage, but their husbands are unwilling to yield. Soon this leads to serious problems. For a wife, freedom through divorce may become more desirable than having to submit unquestioningly to the dictates of a husband.
The fact that many wives are part of the labor force has also contributed toward weakening families. At work, such wives may get considerable attention from other men. Sometimes this may lead to their finding another man who is more attractive to them than is their own husband. As a result, their marriage may end in divorce.
In lands where inflation continues to be a problem, husbands and wives often get into heated disputes about financial matters. Such arguments can develop to the point where it seems that only separation or divorce could bring relief from the unpleasant situation.
THOSE WHO ENJOY A UNITED FAMILY
Yet many married people do remain together for life, and they are happy and contented. Why is this?
Often the reason for success in marriage is that both husband and wife follow sound principles. There is clear evidence that the closer such principles correspond to what is presented in the Bible, the stronger are the family ties. A married man in Las Vegas, Nevada, found this to be true in his case. He remarks: “Before my wife and I started studying the Bible with Jehovah’s Witnesses, I am sure that our marriage would not have lasted another month. That’s how bad things had become.”
But why are the Bible’s guidelines so helpful? They are based on more than human wisdom. The apostle Paul, who for years observed the wholesome effect that the Scriptures can have on people, wrote: “All Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness, that the man of God may be fully competent, completely equipped for every good work.” (2 Tim. 3:16, 17) Yes, God is the source of the wisdom contained in the Scriptures. As man’s Maker he knows what is in our best interests and will promote our greatest happiness. That is why we can trust the guidance that the Scriptures provide. This guidance has also passed the test of time.
What the Bible says about marriage and family life is very realistic. It does not raise false expectations; it frankly acknowledges that marriage is not without problems. We read that those who marry “will have tribulation in their flesh.” (1 Cor. 7:28) At the same time the Scriptures show how to handle family difficulties successfully, as we shall see.
Furthermore, the Bible deemphasizes material things, encouraging contentment and the pursuit of spiritual treasures. For example, at 1 Timothy 6:7, 8 we read: “We have brought nothing into the world, and neither can we carry anything out. So, having sustenance and covering, we shall be content with these things.” How many disputes over financial matters married couples could avoid by living accordingly!
The counsel of the Scriptures promotes the highest regard for the marriage arrangement. There is such admonition as the following: “Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” (Heb. 13:4) Besides counsel on maintaining an honorable marriage, the Bible also presents sound reasons for avoiding sexual immorality. In an unvarnished way the Scriptures warn of the dangers to one’s health, family and, most importantly, to one’s relationship with Jehovah God. The man pursuing an immoral woman, for example, is compared to a ‘bull being led to the slaughter.’ Then we read: “He has not known that it involves his very soul,” that is, his life as a person.—Prov. 7:22, 23.
The Bible also sets forth the rights and responsibilities of husband, wife and children. When its admonition is applied, all members of the family enjoy a dignified standing. They feel needed and appreciated. Therefore, they enjoy being together.
So that you might see how fine the principles of the Bible are, we invite you to read the next article. We feel sure that you will be encouraged to note that wholesome family life is possible even at a time when family breakdown is a serious problem.
The Secret of Happy Family Life
The Secret of Happy Family Life
“I bend my knees to the Father, to whom every family in heaven and on earth owes its name.”—Eph. 3:14, 15.
1-3. How do some persons feel about the standards for a happy family life, and what questions does this raise?
WHAT sane person does not want his family life to be happy? If it is not happy at present, most persons would be willing to apply any means that they feel might help them to succeed in finding real family unity and happiness.
2 In searching for the secret of happy family life, some have the view that this technological world poses problems no other age has faced. So they feel that a different moral standard is needed. They also believe that the world is more enlightened in every way than were past generations.—Prov. 30:13.
3 Is this true? Technology has accentuated some of the age-old problems, yes. But has human nature changed? Are people less desirous of being treated kindly and less susceptible to love? The way in which we have used our scientific and industrial advancement—has it solved our problems, or has it, instead, made us less human in our approach to social relations?
4. Why is it unwise to feel that we can discard all previous standards as to family life?
4 Assessing matters honestly, we must admit that today’s generation is no more intelligent or no better than past ones. In fact, the intelligence we have, we inherited from them. So we cannot safely or sensibly throw over all the basic standards followed by practically every nation on earth for thousands of years—for example, monogamy, family headship and the importance of the family unit—especially since these have proved beneficial. In fact, it is deviation from these principles that has caused most family unhappiness.
WHERE PROPER STANDARDS ORIGINATE
5, 6. (a) How does Romans 2:14, 15 show the origin of the marital and other standards that most nations have followed? (b) How do the Scriptures, as at Deuteronomy 6:7 and 31:12, show that families should be together as much as possible? (c) How should the family head view the opinions of the other family members?
5 More importantly, where did these standards of family life originate? Were they the product of man’s logic, or were they drawn from trial-and-error experience? Neither. They came from the Creator of men and women, the Establisher of the family as the basic unit of human society. Even about the nations that do not acknowledge the true God, the Bible says: “Whenever people of the nations that do not have [the Mosaic] law do by nature the things of the law, these people, although not having law, are a law to themselves. They are the very ones who demonstrate the matter of the law to be written in their hearts, while their conscience is bearing witness with them and, between their own thoughts, they are being accused or even excused.”—Rom. 2:14, 15.
6 So the laws of many of the nations—their laws that tend toward holding families together—are a result of the moral standards and natural feelings put into the human makeup at creation. Accordingly, in all nations we see some families that enjoy a considerable measure of happiness. The members of these families have true natural affection. Usually there are good communication and common interests that weld the family together. They work together, play together, and respect one another. While the family head finalizes decisions on important matters, everyone is respectfully granted a hearing ear as to his ideas or opinions. There is a feeling of freedom of thought, speech and action, limited only by the best interests of the family and of the individual.
7. How does Psalm 127:1 show what is the primary factor for happiness in family life?
7 But for the greatest assurance of permanent happiness that will weather the economic ups and downs, the temptations of the so-called “modern morality” and the disappointments of this world, a good relationship with God is the primary thing. If that relationship is gained and maintained, all other features of family life will “fall into place,” and even if matters do not always turn out precisely as one might desire, they can be coped with and handled in the most successful way possible.—Ps. 127:1.
8, 9. Using Romans 7:19, 20, show why it is necessary to work hard to apply Bible principles.
8 What are some of the factors involved in maintaining a good relationship with God and, as a consequence, a good relationship among family members?
9 First, there must be love and affection, along with a genuine display of these qualities. Humankind, made originally ‘in the likeness of God,’ still possesses these good qualities in a measure, though sin has dimmed them to a great extent. (Gen. 1:26, 27) Therefore, it is essential to strive constantly to put into application the Bible’s principles governing the family. Let us consider a few of these principles.
10. What marital safeguards do we find at Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6 and Hebrews 13:4?
10 At the beginning God said: “A man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.” (Gen. 2:24) Jesus Christ added: “Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.” (Matt. 19:6) This knowledge is a safeguard, restraining the married person from looking with longing eyes at others of the opposite sex and from actions that could lead to defilement of the marriage. He (or she) knows that marital unfaithfulness can ruin the family happiness and damage or break his relationship with God. In any case, the unavoidable effect is the branding of lasting scars on the heart and life of every family member.
PROPER VIEW OF FAMILY HEADSHIP PROMOTES HAPPINESS
11. In what way is the husband the family head?
11 Having accepted this view of oneness of the married pair, we next see from the Bible that, while the marriage is a partnership arrangement, there must be order. God has provided this by making the husband the head of the family. The husband is the “senior partner,” available to be consulted, and responsible for the final decisions on matters affecting the family’s welfare. The Christian apostle Paul wrote: “A husband is head of his wife as the Christ also is head of the congregation. . . . In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it.”—Eph. 5:23-29.
12. Why, according to Ephesians 5:29, does the good husband not use his authority tyrannically, and, therefore, how will he deal with the members of his family?
12 A good husband, appreciating the God-ordained responsibility that he has, will try to engender respect, not merely because he is head—and certainly not from any supposition that he is “boss”—but because his wife is one with him and he does not want to hurt her or bring disrepute upon himself (and his Creator) by tyrannical use of authority. Rather, he will encourage his wife and other members of the family to be free in their interchange of ideas, thoughts and feelings. He will keep the lines of communication open by being readily and kindly approachable upon any subject or problem. He will also respect their feelings, weigh their opinions impartially, and accord them certain authorities within their realm of activity in the family arrangement.
13, 14. Commenting on the description of a “capable wife” in Proverbs 31, outline the authorities and duties that she may be granted.
13 For example, the wife, in most cases, supervises the house. The Bible says of a “capable wife”: “She has rewarded [her husband] with good, and not bad.” “She has sought wool and linen, and she works at whatever is the delight of her hands.” “Her owner is someone known in the gates, when he sits down with [his fellow] older men of the land.” “Her sons have risen up and proceeded to pronounce her happy; her owner rises up, and he praises her.”—Prov. 31:10, 12, 13, 23, 28.
14 From this it is seen that the wife should be given latitude to manage the household. Proving herself a good worker, capable and apt in handling these things, she usually would be the one planning the decoration of the home, the buying of food and, perhaps, furniture and other things that promote family happiness. The husband would intervene only when her plans or spending would be unwise or would endanger the family’s economy or welfare.
15. What should the husband acknowledge about a good wife, and what are the results to him, as pointed out in Proverbs 31:23, 28 and 1 Corinthians 11:7?
15 The appreciative husband never forgets to give his wife encouragement and to acknowledge freely her hard work and her accomplishments in the family’s behalf. His associates respect him because her fine qualities reflect his good headship and loving attention to her. (1 Cor. 11:7) Both husband and children speak well of her on every occasion. Neither the good husband nor the good wife ever ‘runs down’ the mate by speaking disparagingly of him or her before others. They shrink from the thought of bringing such public disgrace and humiliation upon the family.
WIFE’S ROLE ESSENTIAL TO FAMILY HAPPINESS
16, 17. (a) Is Scriptural subjection of a wife slavery for her, or what? (b) How will the good wife act in a situation where her husband disagrees on a family matter?
16 The wife can have a great share in making the family happy. First, she realizes the truth of the Bible’s advice: “Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord.” “In fact, as the congregation is in subjection to the Christ, so let wives also be to their husbands in everything.” “The wife should have deep respect for her husband.” (Eph. 5:22, 24, 33) This subjection, rather than being slavery, actually brings liberation to the woman from the heavy responsibilities that the husband, being the head, must measure up to, in the sight of both God and men.
17 The good wife understands that, in a situation where she may think she is right, she should, nevertheless, submit to her husband’s decision if he sees the matter differently. She should not hypocritically claim to submit, while using devious means to try to control the situation. Of course, where a violation of Christian conscience may be involved, the Christian will obey God first.—Acts 5:29.
18, 19. (a) Comment on the effect of a contentious wife, as described in Proverbs 27:16. (b) When one of the marriage partners becomes irritated at what might be viewed as stubbornness or troublesomeness on the other’s part, what should be kept in mind?
18 The good wife also understands that, while her husband is charged by the Scriptures ‘not to be bitterly angry’ with his wife, she must be careful that she does not give him occasion to feel that way toward her. (Col. 3:19) The right-minded husband does not want to fight with her over issues, or to use force in exercising headship. The effect of an unsubmissive, anger-prone or quarrelsome wife is described at Proverbs 27:16: “Anyone sheltering her has sheltered the wind, and oil is what his right hand encounters.” The husband is frustrated, he cannot restrain her, and her unsubmissiveness becomes public knowledge, to the family’s disgrace.
19 Of course, with human imperfection, it is unavoidable that irritating situations will occur. But people actually want to be happy and are rarely trying to be troublesome. So, both mates, rather than using retaliatory measures, will, by exercising self-control, speak words that promote love and happiness.
CHILDREN, A SOURCE OF HAPPINESS
20-22. (a) When should real training of a child begin, and why? (b) Why is even a small baby able keenly to sense lack of love or an injustice, and, therefore, what care must be taken from the time of the baby’s birth?
20 Children do much to bring unity and happiness into the home if they are loved, acknowledged and properly trained. When should such training begin?
21 First the parents should not underestimate the newborn baby’s intelligence. He (or she) is not a “second-rate” person. Remember, the baby is born with the godly qualities of love and justice. He is a very intelligent creature. He merely lacks information and experience in order to become full-grown mentally. Unlike animals, which act primarily on instinct, the human baby must learn nearly everything. So he hungrily takes in all he sees and hears. Therefore, training starts at birth, for everything said or done in the baby’s presence should be upbuilding. Love should be lavished upon him. At the same time, anything wrong should be corrected in a kind, considerate manner.—2 Tim. 3:15; 1:5.
22 Keep in mind that the child is you in a smaller edition. A child does not want people to talk “baby talk” to him any more than you do. Life is serious business and a young child wants to learn to do as grown-ups do. Being without guile, he quickly and keenly senses injustice, hypocrisy or lack of love. That is why the qualities of justice, love, mercy and other fruits of the spirit must not be violated in dealing with the child. They must also be cultivated in the child from the beginning.—Prov. 22:6.
23, 24. (a) Why is a brusque dismissal of a child’s questions, or lack of interest in what he is doing, a crushing blow? (b) If the parent cannot immediately show interest, what should he (or she) do?
23 Later on the child may come to you wide-eyed, to ask a question, or enthusiastically to show you something he has discovered. If you brush him off with, “Don’t bother me now,” he is crushed. You, the one he depended so much on, have failed him. He may not say anything, but there is a lasting scar, and a barrier begins to build up.
24 But what if you are genuinely too busy at the time? Kindly explain, just as you would to a grown-up, why you cannot take the time now, but that you will go into the matter later. Then be sure to do so as soon as possible. The child can be trained, when lovingly treated, to appreciate that there are appropriate times for certain things.
25, 26. Is it profitable to reason with a child even though he demonstrates a wrong desire or attitude?
25 Children, from infancy up, want reasons. Some time ago a popular television show presented an interview of a group of high-school youths and parents. The author of a book on parent-child relationships was present. When a live situation was demonstrated in which the parent reasoned with the youth as to why he had to say No to the teen-ager’s request, the author said to the parent: “I’m against you. I would merely say, ‘No, you can’t have it.’” At that, the entire group of youths rose up almost as one person, in disagreement. They said: “We want reasons, not mere commands.” Reasoning with young people helps in keeping open channels of communication.
26 In case a parent finds it difficult to reason with his children, he can follow no better outline than the book of Proverbs, particularly the first seven Pr chapters 1-7, which relate counsel from a God-fearing father to his son.
SUMMARY
27. (a) Along what lines should a husband pattern his headship? (b) Why would being called a ‘daughter of Sarah’ be a fine compliment to a woman, as Peter says at 1 Peter 3:6?
27 Consequently, since God is the Designer of the family arrangement, and since man was made in the image of God, the good husband recognizes the godlike qualities, desires and feelings of the members of his family. He exercises headship in imitation of God and Christ. He demonstrates that he recognizes the Divine Headship over himself and directs his family to respect, above all, that Headship. (1 Cor. 11:3) Wives who recognize this principle follow the pattern of Sarah, Rebekah and other faithful women who served God. A wife could receive no finer compliment than to be called a true ‘daughter of Sarah.’—1 Pet. 3:5, 6.
28, 29. Why is discipline needed and beneficial? (Heb. 12:9-11)
28 Love and kindness will predominate in the happy family, but discipline will not be neglected, for all need training, especially being the imperfect sinners that we are. (Heb. 12:9-11) The “discipline and mental-regulating of Jehovah” is the foundation of child training. (Eph. 6:4) This includes reasoning, as contrasted with arbitrariness. Also, it involves example—the parent inculcates love for God by showing the family that he loves God wholeheartedly.
29 If each one in the family treats the others as God treats him, there is certain to be a happy family life.
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Parents should take every opportunity to make sure that their children know the truth about God’s handiwork
A Worldwide Family Gathers for “Sacred Service” District Assemblies
A Worldwide Family Gathers for “Sacred Service” District Assemblies
“A WORLDWIDE family?” you may ask. “Is there really such a thing?”
Well, there are people from all races, nationalities and social backgrounds who have learned to get along well together. And especially when they gather in large assemblies is their close relationship apparent. The Allentown, Pennsylvania, Evening Chronicle of July 8, 1976, observed:
“A feeling of unity, family ties and sincere friendship permeated the air at the Allentown Fairgrounds today as 7,080 Jehovah’s Witnesses were welcomed by smiling ‘brothers and sisters’ who began the festivities of their four-day District Assembly.”
In all the United States alone a total of 94 “Sacred Service” District Assemblies were held this past summer, with a combined peak attendance of 974,039. At the same time, many other members of this worldwide Christian body were meeting in Canada, Europe and Asia, bringing the attendance to over 1,800,000! And hundreds of thousands more persons in this “family” will yet gather to hear this same assembly program in other lands throughout the earth.
A REAL FAMILY?
Yet, is it really right to call this worldwide body of Christians “a family”? Yes, for Jesus Christ himself said: “Whoever does the will of my Father who is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.” And the Bible speaks of “God’s household, which is the congregation of the living God.”—Matt. 12:50; 1 Tim. 3:15.
How would you like to be part of such a household, one in which all family members really try to do the will of the heavenly Father? Well, Jehovah’s Witnesses are dedicated to do God’s will, and what a difference it makes!
The Augusta, Maine, Kennebec Journal noted that the beliefs of Jehovah’s Witnesses “were evident. There were no smoke-filled rooms, no rowdiness, no littering of grounds. There wasn’t even one policeman on duty to handle the huge crowd.”
At the Detroit, Michigan, assembly health inspector Peter W. Komer said: “You have been able to do what no other group has accomplished.” And he observed the reason why. “Your people care, they are concerned with others. . . . This is the finest group I have ever worked with.”
How is it that Jehovah’s Witnesses world wide truly function as a united Christian family? What motivates them to love and serve others?
THE EDUCATION RESPONSIBLE
Well, think: What makes for respectful, law-abiding families? It is fine instruction and training, is it not? And at their weekly Christian meetings, as well as at larger assemblies, Jehovah’s Witnesses receive the very best instruction and training—from God’s Word, the Bible. Consider, for example, this year’s “Sacred Service” District Assembly program.
As noted in the Vancouver Sun’s article, “WITNESSES’ CONVENTION IS A REAL FAMILY AFFAIR,” the first day’s program was concerned with the idea of individual families serving God together unitedly. Each member of the family was given helpful Scriptural counsel and encouragement in such talks as: “What Sort of Man Are You?” “The Woman Who Procures Praise for Herself” and “What Does Youth Want out of Life?”
Special attention was focused on teenagers. Helpful instruction was given them to cope with questions regarding sex, dating, drugs, alcoholic beverages and other matters. A free copy of the new 192-page book Your Youth—Getting the Best out of It was given to all who, during this part of the program, sat in a special section up front.
A feature of the second day was the talk “Holy Spirit in Action,” after which a new 192-page book, Holy Spirit—The Force Behind the Coming New Order, was released. During the third day, which stressed a Christian’s responsibility to tell others about God’s kingdom, a new 192-page book to aid in this disciple-making work was made available. It is entitled “Good News to Make You Happy.”
To add to the assembly’s enjoyment, a Bible drama was presented each day that nicely impressed a point of instruction.
The effect of such Scriptural education that Jehovah’s Witnesses regularly receive was apparent to assembly visitors. Judy Hierseman, who entitled her newspaper article “FAMILY-ORIENTED PROGRAM,” wrote:
“Families are the rule rather than the exception. And the presence of all those children, ranging in age from babes in arms to teenagers, does nothing to disturb the tranquillity and quiet dedication of the remainder of the Witnesses.
“Rather it adds a feeling of togetherness, serious, yet lighthearted, that has pervaded the scene of swarming humanity at the Brown County Veterans’ Memorial arena.”—Green Bay Press-Gazette, July 10, 1976.
Family unity was manifested in many ways at the assemblies, as the Oakland (Calif.) Tribune observed: “Family togetherness is evident in many convention activities, from parents and children folding plastic eating utensils into napkins to others peeling vegetables into enormous crocks to feed the assemblage.”
REALLY UNITED FAMILIES
The assembly’s principal talk, “Will Serving God Solve Your Problems?” showed that family-related problems not only can be solved, but actually have been solved when individuals apply in their lives the righteous principles in God’s Word. True experiences were related on the program at some assemblies to illustrate this. For example, at Allentown a person, whose wife became one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, told of how he committed crimes that landed him in prison.
“My wife, whom I had treated so cruelly,” he said, “came to visit me in prison. I could see the deep concern in her eyes, and I knew she really wanted to help me. She wrote me every day, and all of her letters spoke of Jehovah. Finally, I began to listen, and even began seriously to examine the Scriptures to make sure of the things she said. In less than six months I was convinced that it was the truth.
“I started working with the prison officials to establish meetings there at the prison that would be open to all the prisoners. In time the institution awarded us one hour every week to meet together for either a Bible talk or a Watchtower study. Eventually, a couple of my charges were surprisingly dropped, and I was released in time for the district assembly that was held in Allentown last year. There I symbolized my dedication to serve Jehovah God by water baptism. How thankful I am for the determination of my wife, and for the privilege of becoming a member of this beautiful and unique family of Jehovah’s Christian witnesses!”
In just the United States 10,181 persons were baptized at the 94 district assemblies, thus publicly expressing their desire to be members of this united worldwide Christian family. Sometimes husbands and wives were baptized together, and, on occasion, their children as well.
You, too, can be a member of this worldwide Christian family. First, it is necessary to learn what the will of the heavenly Father is, and then to obey it. And as you thereafter regularly assemble with others who have dedicated their lives to do God’s will, you will come to experience the happiness that comes with serving as a member of the worldwide Christian family of Jehovah’s Witnesses.
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Mother and son preparing sandwiches for delegates at the Oakland, California, Assembly
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Teen-agers eagerly received their free copy of the new book, “Your Youth—Getting the Best out of It”
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Families were baptized together, as was this father, mother and daughter at the Richfield, Ohio, assembly
What Does Youth Want out of Life?
What Does Youth Want out of Life?
“Flee from the desires incidental to youth, but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace.”—2 Tim. 2:22.
1-3. (a) What, basically, do youths say that they want out of life? (b) What is the finest purpose one can have, and how does the Bible show this? (c) Why is it not wrong to want to be happy?
YOUNG people, what DO you want out of life? Many youths were recently asked this question. And from examining their answers, we feel that we know how you would probably answer this question.
2 In a few words, youths say that they want happiness and enjoyment. One eighteen-year-old put it this way: “I want to be happy. And I want comfort—nice clothes, a nice house, good music and good food, and the feeling that I’m doing some little thing that matters.” While also expressing a desire for such things, many youths, due to their Christian training, said that they wanted to serve their God Jehovah, and to gain eternal life in his new system of things. (1 John 2:17; 2 Pet. 3:13) Really, you could have no finer purpose than this, for the rewards that God will bestow upon his faithful servants are far superior to anything you could ever get out of life on your own.—Ps. 37:4; 145:16.
3 Therefore, it is not wrong for young people to want happiness, and to want to enjoy themselves. The Bible speaks of Jehovah as “the happy God,” and so he also wants his people to be happy. (1 Tim. 1:11) It should not be surprising, then, that God’s Word speaks favorably of young people deriving pleasure from activities in which they engage. For example, in describing God’s blessed people, the Bible says: “The public squares of the city themselves will be filled with boys and girls playing.” Also, it says that there is “a time for dancing.”—Zech. 8:5; Eccl. 3:4, New English Bible.
REALIZING THE HAPPINESS THAT YOUTHS WANT
4. (a) What type of careers do many young people desire? (b) Why do Christian youths generally recognize a problem in pursuing such careers?
4 Many young people today enjoy sports very much, and believe that pursuing a career in sports will bring them real happiness. A fourteen-year-old Christian youth acknowledged: “I think a lot about sports, particularly basketball. I want to serve Jehovah, but I also dream of being a basketball player someday on a famous team.” No doubt similar desires are tugging at the hearts of thousands of Christian youths. Or, they may feel that their quest for happiness can be satisfied in the pursuit of some other type of career, such as in music or the theater. From what they have studied in God’s Word, they know that they should want to serve Jehovah, and to help others to gain life in His new system. But for some youths these things are not that real to them.
5, 6. (a) What other things do youths say they want out of life? (b) What is responsible for young people’s having such desires?
5 Making a lot of money is important to many people today. So it should not be surprising to learn that many young people said that their goal in life is to become rich. Also, young people are surrounded by a lot of things that stimulate their sexual desires. The fact is, it has always been natural for young people to be attracted to persons of the opposite sex. Thus the reply of one Christian girl in New York city is understandable: “The main thing I would like from life,” she said, “is to be married.” Many Christian youths said that they want to marry sooner or later and have a good family life.
6 By contrast, many youths of the world have quite different views. For example, a nineteen-year-old boy said: “I want lots of women.” And a seventeen-year-old girl responded: “I want to live comfortably and not worry about anything. And anything includes disease due to living a carefree life. Maybe this sounds distasteful to some, but it’s about time they grew up. Marriage ties you down. I want to live a little.”
7, 8. (a) Why is it obviously wrong to engage in immoral sex relations? (b) In what ways do many youths need help?
7 Yes, many young people believe that lots of money and lots of sex with a variety of partners is what will give them the best in life. But, obviously, something is wrong with their thinking. For look at the overwhelming problems that have resulted from immorality—the epidemic of venereal diseases, the millions of illegitimate children and abortions, the heartaches and frustrations. Little wonder that in the United States suicide has become the second leading cause of death among young people, having leaped 250 percent in recent years!
8 It is clear that many young men and women need better guidance and direction. They need help to develop a viewpoint that will equip them to obtain lasting happiness and satisfaction from life. They need to be turned to their Creator, Jehovah God, to recognize that He really exists. (Heb. 11:6) They need to see the wisdom and practicalness of his laws, how it is for their own benefit that they “flee from the desires incidental to youth” so that they can prove useful to God. (2 Tim. 2:20-22) They need to learn that his purpose is to destroy this corrupt system and to replace it with a new one of his making. They need to be helped to live for that new system, to live in a way now so that they can prove worthy to live forever. This is what will truly bring them happiness.—Prov. 3:13-18.
A BALANCED VIEW OF SPORTS
9-12. (a) How does 1 Timothy 4: 7, 8 help us to get a balanced view of sports? (b) What are benefits derived from sports, but what are the dangers of becoming overly involved in them? (c) Why is it only proper that devotion and service to God be a foremost part of our lives? (Ps. 36:9; Heb. 6:10; Jas. 1:12)
9 God’s Word can help young people to get a balanced view of sports. For example, it gives this wise counsel: “Be training yourself with godly devotion as your aim. For bodily training is beneficial for a little; but godly devotion is beneficial for all things, as it holds promise of the life now and that which is to come.” (1 Tim. 4:7, 8) So the Bible shows that “bodily training,” such as we get in sports, has its place. It can help us to develop physical coordination, flexibility, muscle tone and strength. But note the caution, “bodily training is beneficial for a little.” What can happen if such Bible advice is ignored and you become totally absorbed in sports?
10 For one thing, it can spoil the fun, making sports “serious business” rather than a welcome recreation. Pointing to the effects of overstressing competitive games, sports psychologist Bruce Ogilvie said: “I once interviewed the rookies in 10 major league baseball camps and 87 percent of them said they wished they’d never played Little League baseball because it took the joy out of what had been a fun game.” Also, some sports, such as football, can be dangerous, especially when your body is in the process of developing physically. What has made some sports so dangerous is the extreme competitiveness—the win-at-all-costs attitude—that is often encouraged.
11 Still another thing to consider is the associations to which playing organized sports may expose you. Locker-room talk, for example, generally has the reputation of being sexually immoral. How practical would it be to get involved in something that could easily damage your moral principles and your relationship with your Creator? When a young member of the Oakland Raiders professional football team, in the U.S.A., began to appreciate the teachings of God’s Word, he decided to give up his lucrative football career. Representatives of the Raiders visited him to try to change his mind. “I told them,” he said, “what my associations in those circles had resulted in—use of drugs, loose living, an arrogant, proud disposition. That whole life-style connected with professional football, I explained, would interfere with the Christian life I now wanted to lead.”
12 So sports are much like other things that are good when they are kept in balance—when they do not dominate your life so as to overshadow more important things, or to expose you to damaging situations. How exhilarating it can be to play a fast-moving sport and experience the thrill as one’s body responds and performs feats of skill! But sports in themselves are not the source of lasting happiness. They do not hold “promise of the life now and that which is to come,” as godly devotion does. Yes, making the most important thing in your life the service of your heavenly Father, Jehovah God, is what will bring you true happiness and satisfaction—forever.
A BALANCED VIEW OF MONEY AND SEX
13, 14. (a) Why, according to 1 Timothy 6:9, 10, Luke 12:16-21 and Ecclesiastes 5:10, is it unwise to have as one’s purpose the accumulating of material riches? (b) According to 1 Timothy 6:11, 12, what should we pursue, and why?
13 In most places today it takes money to eat, to buy clothes, to have a home. So efforts must necessarily be made to earn money. Yet to have as your purpose in life the accumulating of riches simply is not wise. It does not bring happiness. God’s Word is accurate when it says: “Those who are determined to be rich fall into temptation and a snare and many senseless and hurtful desires, which plunge men into destruction and ruin. For the love of money is a root of all sorts of injurious things, and by reaching out for this love some have been led astray from the faith and have stabbed themselves all over with many pains.”—1 Tim. 6:9, 10.
14 Sickness, worry, sleepless nights and a disrupted family life are among the problems experienced by many of those whose purpose in life is the making of a lot of money. Even when a person is able to accumulate wealth, it is usually observed that this does not bring him happiness. (Eccl. 5:10) So show yourself wise. Take a balanced, godly view of money. Heed the Bible admonition: “Flee from these things. But pursue righteousness, godly devotion, faith, love, endurance, mildness of temper. Fight the fine fight of the faith, get a firm hold on the everlasting life.”—1 Tim. 6:11, 12, 17-19; 2 Tim. 2:22.
15, 16. (a) How does the Bible take a frank view of sex? (b) Why is it beneficial that the Bible discusses sexual matters in a straightforward manner?
15 Certainly, to gain everlasting life requires having a balanced, godly view, not only of money, but also of sex. The Bible openly discusses sex in a truthful, frank way. The fact is, the Bible is largely a book about people, and sex is an integral part of the life of people. So God’s Word tells about the joy of honorable marriage. (Gen. 26:8; Prov. 5:15-20; 1 Cor. 7:1-5) But it also tells about the perversions and the misuse of sex. For example, just consider what is in the Bible book of Genesis. It describes the homosexual passions of the men of Sodom, the drunken relations of Lot with his daughters, the rape of Jacob’s daughter Dinah, Judah’s relations with his daughter-in-law whom he mistook for a prostitute, and the sexy attempts of Potiphar’s wife to seduce Joseph.—Gen. 19:4, 5, 30-38; 34:1, 2; 38:12-26; 39:7-16.
16 Some persons have criticized the Bible for telling about life as it really is, for exposing the badness in people’s lives. Yet the Bible never does this in a way to stimulate passions, or to encourage wrongdoing. Rather, it usually shows the bad consequence of a wrong course. Also, these accounts are recorded so that vital lessons can be learned from them. For example, consider what happened in King David’s household.
17, 18. (a) What do we learn from the experience of Amnon and Tamar, as reported at 2 Samuel 13:1-33? (b) What similar results have modern-day youths experienced from immoral sex relations?
17 David’s oldest son Amnon developed a passionate desire for his lovely half sister Tamar. Feigning sickness, he maneuvered things so that Tamar was the one who waited on him, bringing him food when no one else was around. He then “grabbed hold of her and said to her: ‘Come, lie down with me, my sister.’” She virtuously protested, but he refused to listen and forced her to lie down with him. Did he really get what he desired out of this? The record describes the result: “Amnon began hating her with a very great hatred, . . . greater than the love with which he had loved her, so that Amnon said to her: ‘Get up, go away!’”—2 Sam. 13:1-33.
18 Clearly, the fulfilling of Amnon’s passionate, incestuous desire brought no real pleasure to him or to his half sister. And this so often is the case when persons engage in immoral sex relations. The Journal of the American Medical Association reported this confession of a youth who had premarital sex relations with many misled girls. “I have learned that this did not bring me happiness.” Also, a tearful young co-ed said of such an experience: “It sure wasn’t worth it—it was no fun at the time, I’ve been worried ever since.”
19. (a) Why does sexual morality make sense? (b) What can help you to keep free from sexual immorality, as shown by scriptures such as Ephesians 5:3-5 and Philippians 4:8?
19 Really, how wise we are to heed the Bible’s command: “Flee from fornication”! Indeed, “flee from the desires incidental to youth,” which can lead to trouble in your life. (1 Cor. 6:18; 2 Tim. 2:22) Sexual morality makes sense because those who hold to it have a far better likelihood of a successful marriage. On the other hand, so-called sexual “freedom” changes what should be pleasurable and clean into something cheap and detestable. So to stay free from immorality, stay free from the things that lead to it: conversation that always dwells on the opposite sex, also reading material or looking at pictures that excite sexual passion. Keep your mind, your eyes and your tongue occupied with clean, positive things, working toward worthwhile goals that bring enduring benefits.—Eph. 5:3-5; Phil. 4:8.
GETTING THE BEST OUT OF LIFE
20, 21. How do you reveal what you really want out of life?
20 So, what DO you want out of life? You may feel, as did most Witness youths who were asked that question, that you want to please Jehovah God and prepare yourself to live in his new system. That is a fine purpose, the very best! It is something truly worth while to want. But the question remains: “Is what you are doing in keeping with what you say?”
21 A person may say that what he wants out of life is to be an expert physician. But what if that person made no effort to apply himself in school, or even to take courses that would give him knowledge of the human body and its functions? You would probably question the sincerity of the person’s desire to be a physician. Similarly, you are answering the question, “What do you want out of life?”, by the way you are living. It reminds one of the expression, ‘What you are thunders so loud that I can’t hear what you are saying.’ A person may say that he wants to please Jehovah God and to gain everlasting life, but if that person makes little or no effort to listen to God by studying or obeying His Word, obviously something is lacking.
22. (a) What can you do to help to strengthen your desire to serve Jehovah? (b) How can you prove to be “a vessel for an honorable purpose,” as described at 2 Timothy 2:20-22?
22 What can you do if you find that you are one of those who says that he wants to serve Jehovah God but who is not doing as much as he should be to serve God? Here is one step you can take: Read the new book published by the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society, Your Youth—Getting the Best out of It. Make a real effort to begin applying its sound Scriptural counsel. Also, where possible, ask your father or mother if they will study this book with you. This will put you on the right track for winning Jehovah’s favor. It will help you to “flee from the desires incidental to youth,” and to become a useful “vessel,” or instrument, to God.—2 Tim. 2:20-22.
23, 24. (a) What is the key to getting the best out of life, as indicated at Proverbs 4:20-23? (b) Despite enemies who are against us, why can we be confident that we can get the best out of life now and forever?
23 Each of us needs to realize that the key to getting the best out of life is found in our reliance on our heavenly Father, Jehovah God. No matter how fine, or how poor, a start your parents may have given you, and no matter how good a mind and body you may have, you will always want to appreciate the need for guidance from Jehovah. He inspired these words to be written for young persons like yourself: “To my sayings incline your ear. May they not get away from your eyes. Keep them in the midst of your heart. For they are life to those finding them and health to all their flesh. More than all else that is to be guarded, safeguard your heart, for out of it are the sources of life.”—Prov. 4:20-23.
24 Yes, the more you look to Jehovah God and his Word for direction, the smoother the road of life will become for you. True, it will not be easy so long as we are in this world with its god, Satan the Devil, who is trying to turn us away from Jehovah. (2 Cor. 4:4; Eph. 6:12; 1 Pet. 5:8, 9) But stand firm! Be confident! If you stick to your determination to serve Jehovah God, he and all his heavenly hosts will back you up. They will help you to get the best out of your youth now, and to gain everlasting life in God’s righteous new system so near at hand.—Ps. 34:7.
Insight on the News
Insight on the News
Disruptive Children
● Retiring Chief Juvenile Court Judge Thomas Gill says that, in the last twenty years of work in Connecticut courts, he has observed the emergence of a more dangerous group of children. He says that their antisocial behavior is such that they now constitute an “extremely disruptive group” that is having “a chilling impact on people.”
Because of their viciousness, these youths have gone beyond what was once regarded as juvenile delinquency. Gill noted that in a previous period of thirteen years his court had only one charge of homicide against a child in some 55,000 cases that it handled. But in a recent period of only one year it had three such cases. And the same increase in youth crime is noted nearly everywhere.
Bible prophecy foretold that in our times children would indeed be “disobedient to parents,” and that people in general would increasingly lack self-control, becoming fierce, without a love of goodness.—2 Tim. 3:1-5.
Ominous Trends in Italy
● In last summer’s Italian national elections, the ruling Christian Democratic party, backed by the Catholic Church, won a narrow victory over the Communist party. But the Communists continued to make gains.
This was also reflected in the municipal elections held at the same time. For example, in the Rome city government the Communist party won 35.5 percent of the vote, compared to 33.1 percent for the Christian Democrats. Hence, for the first time Rome came under the control of a Communist-led coalition. The New York “Sunday News” said that this “was a setback to the Vatican and the Pope, who reigns as the Catholic bishop of Rome.” With the Rome vote, the Communist party now dominates the governments of every major city in Italy, the “News” observes.
Also of great concern to the Church is the decline of religious practice in Italy. The Catholic periodical “Commonweal” reports: 53 percent of the Italian people were regular Church communicants in 1956; 40 percent were in 1960; 35 percent, in 1965. The most recent figure is only 30 percent. There is no indication that the decline will be reversed. The Jesuit magazine “Civiltà Cattolica” says that 72 percent of the people it questioned felt that the Church had no real interest in, or understanding of, the working class.
These trends in Italy and other lands toward more radical-type governments and the drift away from “orthodox” religion are ominous for the churches of Christendom. Yet this was foretold in Bible prophecy at Revelation chapters 17 and 18. There God’s Word reveals that religions which have ‘played the harlot’ with this world are to be suddenly destroyed in the near future, causing great shock to supporters of those religions.
Were Nazi Leaders Insane?
● It has been a common belief that the leaders of Nazi Germany must have been demented, madmen. Hence, many have thought that by keeping insane people out of office, Nazi-type atrocities would not be repeated. But after decades of study, personality tests given Nazi leaders at the Nuremberg trials seem to reveal otherwise.
According to psychologist M. Harrower of the University of Florida, “the Nazis who went on trial at Nuremberg were as diverse a group of people as one might find in our own government today, or for that matter, in the leadership of the PTA [Parent-Teacher Association].” Of eight high Nazi leaders studied, six “showed no serious mental disturbance, and two of them were exceptionally well-adjusted. Their crimes cannot be blamed on mental disorder.”
On what, then? Unchecked power by humans tends to corrupt. Hence, blind obedience to any leader who asks people to break God’s laws can lead to all kinds of corrupt acts. That is why true Christians are told: “We must obey God as ruler rather than men.” (Acts 5:29) In addition, those who break God’s laws leave themselves open to control by “wicked spirit forces in the heavenly places”—demons. (Eph. 6:12) Thus, human leaders and those who blindly follow them can become tools of Satan the Devil, whom the Bible calls “the god of this system of things.”—2 Cor. 4:4.
What Does the Proverb Mean?
What Does the Proverb Mean?
HOW pleasant it is to deal with someone whom you know to be honest! Such persons are rare in this world, especially in the realm of business. Jehovah expressed himself to his people Israel as being against dishonest weights and measures, the having of two kinds of weights, one for buying and one for selling. (Mic. 6:10, 11; Prov. 20:10) An example of lying and dishonesty, which Jehovah hates, is found in Proverbs 20:14: “‘It is bad, bad!’ says the buyer, and he is going his way. Then it is that he boasts about himself.”
It is common practice in business for the buyer to “run down,” find fault with and cheapen an article that he wishes to buy, so as to cause the seller to reduce his price. Of course, the seller also often exaggerates the value of the thing that he is selling and keeps hidden any faults that it may have. Then, after the buyer obtains the product at what he estimates to be well below its actual value, he brags to others about the bargain that he got. He is even willing to tell how he lied to get it. Often the seller acts similarly. But how much better it would be to give an honest evaluation of what one is selling, revealing any faults the item may have. And how good it is if the buyer is likewise honest, not finding supposed or probable faults for the purpose of getting the item cheaper.
Dishonesty of this nature can become a habit and a practice with a man in business, and he justifies himself by saying that if he could not do this he could not stay in business. Yet there are many businessmen among Jehovah’s Witnesses who are proof of the principle that one can be honest, even in a generally corrupt business world, and survive. Some, who, before coming to a knowledge of the truth, sold tobacco in their own restaurants and grocery stores, quit doing so when they found how much they were damaging their fellowman by engaging in the tobacco traffic; for tobacco has finally been acknowledged to be a very dangerous drug. Some observers gloomily predicted that they would lose a lot of business. In some cases, their business did wane at first, but then their sales began to go up again until, in many cases, sales were better than when they had formerly sold tobacco. The owner of a chain of food stores had such an experience.
God, of course, sees and favors the honest person, and there are likewise many people in the world who appreciate honesty and feel more like dealing with a conscientious person. When he became one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, a grocer in Portugal took to heart the proverb that states: “Two sorts of weights are something detestable to Jehovah, and a cheating pair of scales is not good.” (Prov. 20:23) To the surprise of some, his business increased substantially. Why? Because, as one observer commented: “Everyone in the neighborhood says that he will not cheat and rob as other merchants do because now he is one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, and they are honest people.”
However, regardless of whether one loses or gains financially by reason of honesty, the person following the Proverbs’ good counsel on honesty will have peace of mind, a good conscience and happiness, along with Jehovah God’s smile of approval.
What Has Brought Happiness to Me
What Has Brought Happiness to Me
As told by Maria Alves de Azevedo
I WAS born in Lamelas, a little village in the Oporto district of Portugal, famous for its port wines. We lived in a large stone house, with upstairs bedrooms and country house furniture. Downstairs was a large kitchen that also served as a dining room. Here was a wood-fire oven, where our delicious corn bread was baked.
Our drinking water came from the spring at the back of the house. It was fresh and clear, and by its side grew delicious strawberries. And a crystal-clear stream flowed near our house.
I can still remember some of these things, and I still take delight in looking at clear flowing waters. Since childhood days my heart has beat faster when reading in the Bible about the “river of water of life.” (Rev. 22:1, 2) How happy I was, too, when I learned that someday all mankind would live in peace under their own vines and fig trees!—See Micah 4:3, 4.
When I was only three months old, my father left for Brazil in search of better economic conditions. Mother and I joined him four years later, in 1917.
RELIGIOUS INFLUENCES
Father had been an altar boy in the Catholic church back in Lamelas. And mother always took me with her to church. Later, a Presbyterian aunt got father to read the Bible, and soon my parents became Presbyterians.
I was about nine years old then, and I enjoyed reading the Bible stories about merciful Joseph and patient Job. Their course of integrity would move me to tears. I wanted to be like them.
In time we moved to Olaria, in the northern part of Rio de Janeiro. Here, instead of a clear stream, there was a big ditch in the middle of the road overgrown with grass and weeds. This was turned into an open sewer that gave off not so pleasant odors. And the mosquitoes? Well, let us forget them now.
The family’s goal of material prosperity meant hard work. First, I helped mother with the house chores and then both of us would give father a hand in his shoemaking business. Mother also raised chickens, and I helped to sell the eggs. One day I overcharged for two dozen eggs. My intention was to buy a lottery ticket in the hope of winning a doll or toy kitchenware. The stern discipline I received deeply impressed on me the value of honesty.
At age nine I was baptized as a Presbyterian, and in 1927, at age fourteen, I was confirmed. One day that year I met a sailor named Raimundo F. Cabral, who said he was a “Bible Student.” He was engaged to a girl whom I was trying to convert from spiritism to the Presbyterian Church. I was teaching Sunday school and desired to help people to learn about God.
Yet, this sailor showed me from the Bible, not only that spiritism is wrong, but that the soul is mortal and that hell is the common grave of mankind. We discussed other subjects as well, and I learned many things of which I had been unaware. However, he and my girl friend got married and moved away. For twelve years I had no further contact with the Bible Students.
During that time many things happened. I, too, married but my marriage did not turn out to be a bed of roses. There were lots of thorns and few roses. With the highest of hopes I awaited the arrival of my first child. Would it change my marital relationship for the better? Sad to say, the baby was born dead. By this time my husband had already taken to a Bohemian way of life. Not even the birth of three more children changed that sad situation.
I always tried to hide my problems from others, especially from my parents, so I had no one to comfort and encourage me. My religion offered no hope. In fact, I thought I was one of those who read the Bible, but did not deserve to understand it. On the other hand, I also believed that there must be those who would ‘bring the many to righteousness.’ (Dan. 12:3) I kept wondering who they were. How I longed to know the truth that sets one free!—John 8:32.
WHAT I HAD BEEN SEARCHING FOR
Then, in January 1939, the same Bible Student visited me again, only this time he presented himself as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. I readily subscribed to The Watchtower in Portuguese, and as a gift I received the book Riches and three booklets. I was amazed at their powerful message and showed them right away to my neighbors. When I had finished reading the book Riches I could truly say: “I have found God’s people!”
On April 4, 1939, I attended my first meeting of Jehovah’s Witnesses; it was the memorial of Christ’s death. I believed that everybody would welcome the marvelous Bible truths that were bringing so much happiness to me. But as I began to talk about God’s grand purposes to my parents, neighbors, relatives and friends, some said that I had gone crazy. My husband forbade me to mention the Bible to him. My mother started wearing black as a sign of mourning, as though I had already died!
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